If it's 'Love', it is worth a stand

We often say 'I Love You' but do you have the feelings and guts to put that 'you' before 'I' in your life? Do you have the ability to stand for 'you' when there is dispute between your mind and heart? Do you have the strength and power to fight all the odds and make 'you' &'I' into 'we'? Ask these questions to yourself. Know the truth and keep it to you. I am nobody to judge your relationship but to experience the true form of 'love' these are the basic requirements. You must know the feelings correctly before expressing it to anyone.

Love is all about passion and extremes. A mediocre love is never a love, it is just an illusion. Don't waste your time in living a substandard love. There are too many things where you keep compromising in life, don't insult the feeling of 'love' by making it an adjustment or understanding.

There is no other way to experience the divinity on earth than 'Love'. If it is not worth a stand, it is not 'Love'. Make yourself sure today before it's too late and you get the habit of mediocrity in 'Love' too.

This Independence Day free yourself from a fake relationship

In this era of pretentious living, we fake smile, laughter, words, feelings and even relationships too. All the relationships are based on some lies that we say to the other person and some lies that we say to ourselves. But most importantly, these days there is fakism in love relationships too. This thought is quiet disturbing for me, and I hope it is equally disturbing for everyone in long run.

There are many affairs that we see around in schools, colleges and offices. Everyone has one boyfriend/girlfriend. Still we see thousands of people registering on matrimonial sites for an arranged marriage. Do you know the reason why? Why affairs are not turning into a lifetime commitment? Why lovers spend years of time with each other but could not make it happen? Why love has a very short life span?

The fact is that there is no term called ‘LOVE’ that exists in these relationships. They are based on emotional, mental, physical, social or monetary needs and the biggest lie that both of them say to themselves and to each other i.e. ‘they love each other’. Love is about fighting for each other till the last breath. Love is about standing with each other in all the ups and downs. Love is about being passionate and focussed for one commitment. See the eternal love couples Heer-Ranjha, Romeo-Juliet, Soni-Mahiwal and you will realize what love is.

So it’s time to understand the true meaning of ‘Love’ and free yourself from the fake relationship. Think and analyze - can you do the same sacrifices that Romeo-Juliet has done for each other? Or do you see yourself at the position of Bhagat Singh who has sacrificed his life for his dulhan called ‘Azaadi’? If the answer is ‘yes’ then you are in a true love, and if the answer is ‘no’ rethink about your relationship. Say the truth to yourself and to the person you are in relationship with. Hope it will save you and them from the pain. If any one of you is serious it is important to stop this relationship at the right time and in the right manner.

Happy Independence Day!

RIP APJ Abdul Kalam

Soulful tribute to the most inspirational and lovable former president of the nation, APJ Abdul Kalam.

Assumption kills Relationships

The moment you postulate in a relationship, you start building a room for misunderstanding. People do have ability to comprehend but it is not necessary that their mindset matches yours. Even your siblings who are born and brought up in the same environment are unlike you. Still you expect others to read your mind...huh!

Either we talk about professional or personal, relationships need legible communication to cultivate. For instance, in a close knit company where everyone was supporting, boss delayed the salary because of financial crisis and assumed that employees will understand him. Employees kept quiet believing that boss will figure out their problems and will not repeat this in future. This way for one month they assumed and it worked out. When the same act happened repeatedly, assumption turned into misunderstanding. And agitation had begun. Healthy environment transformed into cold war and faith got shattered. One by one everyone left the company on a bad note and still assumption existed in a form that both boss and employees felt they are right on their part. If that assumption would not have been there at first place and people would have shared things on one to one basis, relationships would never have reached to the level they did.

Here is another situation where assumption has killed the relationship. This time personal, very personal. Lovers got married after 5 years of affair. They were on the ninth cloud of happiness. But soon reality knocked the door. Marriage comes with responsibility, household work and family relationships. Girl assumed her man to behave like a boy she loved and boy assumed her girl to behave like a matured woman after marriage. When this did not happen, friction built up. And a healthy relationship of 5 years turned into a bad marriage.

Don't assume! Speak up and make your relationships flourish.

Speak Up!

God has given you senses to see, contemplate, apprehend and express. Don't sit quiet when it is important to speak...don't let your words die inside...don't insult the power of speaking that god has bestowed upon you.
Speak up -

When you see anything wrong happening in front of you. Don't wait for others to react. They might be waiting for the same. It is important to stop the wrong doing right there. Silence might result in life long guilt.

When you have feelings for him/her. It is always right time to express love. Do you know what will happen the next moment? No, right. Then, how can you lose a chance to express the love while just waiting...Love is never rejected...it is just the relationship expectation that gets rejected. So don't worry. Just speak up and let the person know how much you love them.

When you are angry. Yes! You read it correct. It is just that this time you have to speak in closed empty room. Don't keep quiet and let the anger burn you inside. Speak up loud and clear and let everything come out. It might help you in releasing the frustration. Also you will be able to rethink upon the matter with a cool mind later.

Speaking up is not harmful...just know when, where and how to speak!

Love is the Best Medicine

Have you ever loved your stomach, eyes, nose, lips, ears, skin, liver, kidney, lungs, hands, legs, hair...? Have you ever felt them and their importance until they demanded your attention? When you face hairfall you start taking care of them by applying conditioners and using home remedies...when your stomach is upset, you eat all the healthy things in world...when your ears start paining, you quit using earphones for some time...but do you know the cause of every disease?

It's lack of love. Deficiency of Love. Love each part of your body just the way a mother loves her child and trust me, you will never do anything that is harmful. Rather you will start taking care of each part with all your heart. The things you do for pleasure which result in hampering your health will be stopped automatically as mother never does anything that harms her child.

More importantly, when you are suffering from any disease love yourself ever more...give time to yourself...take extra care and see the body healing faster than what you have imagined ever... 

Love yourself!

Happy Father's Day

Dear Papa,

My friends do say that "my papa is a superhero...my papa is the strongest...I am the princess of my father" but I proudly reply to everyone that "my papa is not a superhero neither he is strongest and nor he treated me like a princess."

My father is just an ordinary man who has struggled all his life to give me extraordinary learnings. His experiences turned into my learnings which no school could ever taught. Thanks papa for sharing every detail of your life, I never listened it like a story but absorbed it like a lesson.

He is not the strongest man but he taught me how to convert my weaknesses into strengths and how accepting a weakness of others is an important aspect for the survival of any relationship. Thanks papa because of you whatever relationships I have, they are strong enough to withstand all the hardships of life.

Yes my father never treated me like a princess rather he showed me the real picture of life in which I was not the fortunate one to get everything I demand or desire. Thanks papa you made me capable of earning what I desire...you made me understand the true reason of my existence which is not just to live but to create my own identity. If you would have given me everything in hand I might never have explored myself and developed the potential to fight all odds. I might not look like a princess to the boys I meet but I am sure they will never get a better queen for them who has vision and skills to make the life king size."

In a way papa, I am nothing but your creation and I am proud to have the best creator in the world.


Love you for being YOU!

For you Salman ‘I kept Mum’

People from so called intellectual class gave statements, people who are confused about their own facebook status gave remarks and people who does not have opinion on anything expressed their views on the verdict...the verdict which made nation speak. People started discussion in offices, at public places and on whatsapp...lots of jokes were shared, much of criticism happened and media got all the masala for a week. And I kept MUM.

I kept mum when friends teased me for the love I have for you. I kept mum when public leg pulling happened. I kept mum on social media for few days when verdict was trending. I kept mum when people knowingly started criticizing you in front of me. I kept mum for really long...but now I want to speak up...I want to put my point in front of the whole world. I have my own logics to love you +Salman Khan and here I am putting them to invalidate any or all the verdicts that court could ever give –

· Salman Khan is not just a Hero, he is a Superstar and this stardom is not something that he has attained in a day. He has worked for it. There was a bad phase in his life when all the things went wrong just the way it happens with us ‘the common man’. Don’t tell me anything wrong never happened to you or you haven’t done anything wrong to anyone ever. Despite of all the wrong things, he has tried to move out of that phase and he succeeded in that. He has changed not only his behaviour but the way of life. Isn’t this the sign of a real hero? Swami Valmiki was a highway robber in his early life who used to kill people and then, rob them; but a sudden change in his personality made him write the epic ‘Ramayana’ and everyone started praising him. This is what happens. ‘To move on’ is the way of life and that’s what Salman did and I appreciate that he chose to move in a positive direction.

· Have you ever had alcohol? If your answer is ‘yes’, then tell me genuinely, how many of you have never drove after getting drunk? Every person who is a regular (or may be occasional) drunker has driven after having drinks and it is your luck that you have never met an accident. Isn’t it? In fact, there are thousands of accidents happening in the country every day but how many cases you have discussed or cared for? Answer is None! Then, why to make this accident a national issue. This is just an accident that could happen by anyone and that’s why I can’t stop loving my favourite star for this. What if some day your husband or father had to face the same situation? Will you leave them or start hating them for this?

· It is clearly stated that this case is ‘Hit and Run’ and ‘Unintentional’ do you understand the clear meaning of ‘gair iradatan hatya’. It means that he was not intending to kill. It is just an accident. Now, you will say that after hitting at least he should have stayed there to accept it. Tell me one thing, do you have guts to accept this if it happens with you? Nobody has. This is a spontaneous human nature to save oneself, so is there anything wrong in that? You don’t have guts to support a helpless girl being raped on a road with a fear of police case and you are expecting Salman Khan to stay back when case would be filed against himself and he would lose all his fame at the peak time of his career. Come on, be fair. I can’t be this unfair to the one I love.

· Last but not the least; we say law’s main purpose is to give justice to the victim. So tell me putting Salman Khan against bar would give justice to the family of deceased person or adoption of that family by Salman as his own would give justice to them? They have lost a life and they will be given with one. Or may be some decision which is in favour of that family and not just against Salman Khan. Punishment is given to kill the criminal inside and not the person and this delayed justice has already killed the old Salman in the new Salman Khan. He is no more the same person. He has been through that bad phase, learnt the lesson which life wanted to teach and grew as a better person who helps the poor and needy. I love this Salman Khan more than ever and will stand by his side because he is just a Human Being who has learnt to be Being Human.

I kept Mum for a long time because I wanted to know everyone’s opinion and how they change with time. Just a year back they were appreciating Salman Khan for ‘Kick’ and it has done business of over 150 crores and now they are criticizing him at every possible platform for the accident which happened a decade ago...

I love you Salman for whatever you are and my feelings won’t change with the verdict!

Pretentious Definition of Love by famous personalities

Today is Valentine’s Day, the day of ‘Love’ and all day I was thinking about the feeling of Love. What is Love...? Is it loyalty that we see in Romeo-Juliet’s relationship or passion that describes Radha-Krishna or devotion that has made Meera-Mohan inseparable?

I don’t know what it is...but while thinking about definition of love here I have some pretentious definitions. Read and share some more that comes in your mind -