‘Love’ is such a beautiful feeling and has so many different forms in different relationships but here I am talking about the girlfriend-boyfriend love.
If you are having an affair or you are looking for someone to fall in love with or you are hurt with the broken relationship or you are dumped by the person you loved selflessly, here are few tips to make your ‘love’ constructive for yourself –
· First thing, clear the notion that love is about others, it is firstly about oneself. If you love yourself, then only you can love the other person, as you cannot give something that you don’t have. If some day a very pretty girl/ handsome boy come to you and ask for a buffalo, will you be able to give..? No na...because you do not have one. Same is the case with love. So first love yourself and make yourself lovable for others. Be caring, gentle and loving to oneself.
· Second thing, loving surely means accepting the person with positives and negatives in all the manner but it doesn't mean that you should stop putting efforts towards improving the person. Mother also loves the child but she keeps yelling on mistakes and no repulsion can make her discontinue the process of improving her child. So should be the case in every love story. The process of improvement should never be paused or discontinued from both the sides and acceptance also means taking the advice positively, if the love is genuine.
· Third thing, love is the biggest motivation to live and lover should be the biggest motivator to inspire you in every sphere of life. Life is not just about loving; it is about growing, improving, fulfilling dreams and seeing oneself where you ever wished to. So lover should be the one who can make you excel in career, who can support you in ups & downs of life, who can make you better person in every relation you possess and who can make you responsible in all the roles you play. And trust me it is possible.
· Fourth thing, be creative in expressing your love. Love is the best inspiration for any artist and yes, there is hidden artist in every person (if you don’t know your talent, love is the guide to explore it). Make the best use of your talent in making your love impress and it will be helpful in improving your skills and quality of life side by side.
· Last but not the least, if you are hurt and have broken relationship or got dumped, be positive and take this as a challenge. It is important to understand that something went wrong from your side too. You might be lacking at expressing the love & care, giving time, spending money, gifting, motivating for improvement, choosing the right person, analyzing or understanding in various aspects, and it’s time to improve yourself in that area where you lack. This broken relation is not the end of life; it is the start of a new and better life with improved you.
Make the ‘LOVE’ constructive rather than being Majnu and leaving everything for love. Love exists where Life flourish and it fades where Life stagnates. Hope these ideas will be helpful in making the relationship better & practical and they will also guide in choosing the right person who can really be a Constructive Lover. The best couple creates two successful and good individuals.
