Assumption kills Relationships

The moment you postulate in a relationship, you start building a room for misunderstanding. People do have ability to comprehend but it is not necessary that their mindset matches yours. Even your siblings who are born and brought up in the same environment are unlike you. Still you expect others to read your mind...huh!

Either we talk about professional or personal, relationships need legible communication to cultivate. For instance, in a close knit company where everyone was supporting, boss delayed the salary because of financial crisis and assumed that employees will understand him. Employees kept quiet believing that boss will figure out their problems and will not repeat this in future. This way for one month they assumed and it worked out. When the same act happened repeatedly, assumption turned into misunderstanding. And agitation had begun. Healthy environment transformed into cold war and faith got shattered. One by one everyone left the company on a bad note and still assumption existed in a form that both boss and employees felt they are right on their part. If that assumption would not have been there at first place and people would have shared things on one to one basis, relationships would never have reached to the level they did.

Here is another situation where assumption has killed the relationship. This time personal, very personal. Lovers got married after 5 years of affair. They were on the ninth cloud of happiness. But soon reality knocked the door. Marriage comes with responsibility, household work and family relationships. Girl assumed her man to behave like a boy she loved and boy assumed her girl to behave like a matured woman after marriage. When this did not happen, friction built up. And a healthy relationship of 5 years turned into a bad marriage.

Don't assume! Speak up and make your relationships flourish.