How to make the ‘Love’ constructive?

‘Love’ is such a beautiful feeling and has so many different forms in different relationships but here I am talking about the girlfriend-boyfriend love.

If you are having an affair or you are looking for someone to fall in love with or you are hurt with the broken relationship or you are dumped by the person you loved selflessly, here are few tips to make your ‘love’ constructive for yourself –

· First thing, clear the notion that love is about others, it is firstly about oneself. If you love yourself, then only you can love the other person, as you cannot give something that you don’t have. If some day a very pretty girl/ handsome boy come to you and ask for a buffalo, will you be able to give..? No na...because you do not have one. Same is the case with love. So first love yourself and make yourself lovable for others. Be caring, gentle and loving to oneself.

· Second thing, loving surely means accepting the person with positives and negatives in all the manner but it doesn't mean that you should stop putting efforts towards improving the person. Mother also loves the child but she keeps yelling on mistakes and no repulsion can make her discontinue the process of improving her child. So should be the case in every love story. The process of improvement should never be paused or discontinued from both the sides and acceptance also means taking the advice positively, if the love is genuine.

· Third thing, love is the biggest motivation to live and lover should be the biggest motivator to inspire you in every sphere of life. Life is not just about loving; it is about growing, improving, fulfilling dreams and seeing oneself where you ever wished to. So lover should be the one who can make you excel in career, who can support you in ups & downs of life, who can make you better person in every relation you possess and who can make you responsible in all the roles you play. And trust me it is possible.

· Fourth thing, be creative in expressing your love. Love is the best inspiration for any artist and yes, there is hidden artist in every person (if you don’t know your talent, love is the guide to explore it). Make the best use of your talent in making your love impress and it will be helpful in improving your skills and quality of life side by side.

· Last but not the least, if you are hurt and have broken relationship or got dumped, be positive and take this as a challenge. It is important to understand that something went wrong from your side too. You might be lacking at expressing the love & care, giving time, spending money, gifting, motivating for improvement, choosing the right person, analyzing or understanding in various aspects, and it’s time to improve yourself in that area where you lack. This broken relation is not the end of life; it is the start of a new and better life with improved you.

Make the ‘LOVE’ constructive rather than being Majnu and leaving everything for love. Love exists where Life flourish and it fades where Life stagnates. Hope these ideas will be helpful in making the relationship better & practical and they will also guide in choosing the right person who can really be a Constructive Lover. The best couple creates two successful and good individuals.

One Creation a Day

The happiness you are seeking for,

the success you are praying for,

the love you are longing for,

is just one creation away from you…

I believe in it and thus, ‘one creation a day’ defines my ideology of life. A day without creation is a day, wasted. Having my inclination towards creativity is something that keeps me motivated towards my ideology. I don’t know how many of you agree to it but every ‘creation’ gives us a reason for ‘celebration’…be it a delicious dish prepared in kitchen or a piece of art created on canvas.  You don’t need to have extra ordinary skills to create. All you have to do is to explore your interest and thus, give meaning to your life.

Every ‘Creation’ is a complete package that gives me –

Confidence – Every time I create something, I see my imaginations taking shape, my talent getting cultivated and the hidden skills coming in light. It gives me confidence on myself. It’s a secret intimation conveyed by my heart to my mind that ‘yes I can do it’.

Skills – Skills cannot be judged without scrutinizing the competency. While creating new things I can smell my potential and efficacy at various tasks. Along with polishing my skills, it also helps me in developing new skills. In other words, Creation is representation of your skills.

Appreciation – The best part attached with every creation is that, it is neither good nor bad. Each individual has different perspective for things, and definitely there are people with like thinking who will admire the creation whole heartedly. So just believe in creating whatever your heart says and get ready to hear applauds!

Happiness – See your mother and you will understand how a creation can become the biggest happiness. She bears all the pain for nine months to create you. Similarly, every creation is your baby and whatever it brings be it appreciation or criticism, you will be proud to embrace it. It is the reason of happiness and self contentment. Adding taste of happiness in your life depends completely on you. You can crib for the things that you do not have or you can choose to create some, and be happy.

Experience – Creating new things is to touch the new horizons and explore oneself. It’s the process that makes you undergo unique experiences every time. The course may not be easy but it will be full of learning for sure.

Great people have ideology to lead their life and ordinary people have situations. Decide what your guiding light is, and give meaning to your life. I am enjoying the fruit of ‘creation’ with all my senses. You can also choose to create a piece of music, story, art, painting, delicious dish, or anything you like. Are you ready to create something magnificent and add beauty to the world?